Sunday, June 29, 2008

Update on the non-detox

It's been a slightly better week but I really need to drink more water and do more exercise. I've never been a huge water fan so I need to find ways to make it more enticing. Cordial perhaps... but then that's sugar. Diet cordial is full of aspartame and I'm trying to steer clear of that too (not that I'm detoxing or anything). And exercise.. well that's just bloody hard when the mornings are cold and dark until 7am, at which time Mel leaves for work. Hmmmm. And I just do NOT feel like it at night after a long day at work. What to do, what to do? I'm paying for a gym membership and not using it and I hate that. So even if I just go once on the weekends I guess that's an improvement. The other option is to have my gym bag in the car and call in on the way to pick up Annabelle in the afternoon. If I get away from work right on 4pm I can do a quick workout and still pick her up by about 5-5.15pm. I did that once and it worked, so I might try doing that again.


In terms of progress reports, I started off at 68.3kg and after last weekend which involved pizza and hot chips (damn you for leading me astray, Mel) I finished Week 1 at 68.8kg. Aarrrggghhhh!!!!


I'm pleased to report that I've finished Week 2 at 67.1kg. At least the numbers are going in the right direction now.


So this week the plan is to exercise twice and have at least five glasses of water a day. If I could hold off on the vino until Thursday that would be good too but I'm not making promises I'm not sure I'll keep....

Open House

This house we are renting has been listed for sale. They offered us two weeks rent free if we wanted to break our lease and move out but we politely declined the offer. Waaaaayyyy too much hassle to move and we have a lease until November so they can't make us, so ner.


Last week was the first open house. I spent hours cleaning the place as if it was my own house for sale. The owners are a nice young couple and I wanted to do the right thing for them. We put all the kitchen bench things away in cupboards so it was clutter-free and looked un-lived in. Same with bathrooms, same with laundry. Not even clean folded clothes were in view. We put Annabelle's bikes around the side of the house out of sight. We vacuumed, mopped and scrubbed. Well... that stuff needed to be done anyway but still - we could have done it on Sunday, right? But we made sure the place was spotless for the open house. We then had to vacate our home for an hour while they opened it up. Who has 45 minute open houses?? Not in Sydney that's for sure. And it was a rainy Saturday afternoon and we had nowhere we needed to go - no friends to just drop in on - and as I already mentioned, Annabelle was in top form last weekend so husband was up to his eyeballs by the end of it. In short, it was all hugely inconvenient and it sucked.


As I might also have mentioned, we will probably list our house for sale in Sydney and we also have a tenant and she also has a lease until the end of the year. We have already decided in advance that if/when we list the house, we will offer her a substantial rent reduction in exchange for the inconvenience of people traipsing through every week, and with the hope that she will go to the same kind of effort in the way of tidying the place up for "show". We don't have to offer her cheap rent of course, but the thing is she's a bit of a whingey pain in the butt type so we'd like to head off any potential problems up front. So I guess part of my making all the effort with this place is because I know I'd appreciate it as an owner so maybe I'm hoping I'll get some karma points or something. But more to the point I'm just trying to be nice.


What all this is leading to is after our efforts last week, we left a note for the agent telling her that we will offer our tenant a discount on her rent when we sell and asking her if she would put to the owners that maybe they'd do the same for us. Mel pointed out that he travels a lot and gets not much time home with his family and that this is quite an imposition and we're happy to do it but really we don't have much incentive to go to so much trouble. She left a note in return saying something along the lines of "Same time next week for the open house. After that, I'll check with the owners re: rent". Ummm.. HELLO! It's not up to you to decide when to check with the owners, love. So Mel phoned her on Monday and told her he'd like her to ask them NOW. We got a formal letter in the mail saying that while they appreciate our efforts, we are obligated to make the property available for prospective buyers and right now they are working around us in regards to our baby's sleep times (whatever..) and that they can actually open twice a week and they're only opening once and for now, the owners choose to "exercise their rights" and won't be giving us any rent reduction. But if it goes on beyond what is a reasonable time, they'll consider it. Oh and if they get someone wanting to inspect during the week, they expect our full cooperation to let them in with 24hrs notice. She pointed us to our tenancy agreement. So we checked it. Turns out that what she said in her letter is wrong and the guidelines (not law) say that for a property for sale what is "reasonable" (subjective term and up to tenant and landlord to agree on, depending on individual circumstances) is one open house per fortnight OR two inspections by appointment per week. Not two open houses per week.. in fact not even one open house per week. There are different guidelines if the property is being auctioned, in which case one open house per week is considered reasonable. This house is NOT being auctioned. Not that we've got any issue with one open house per week, mind you. But sheesh, don't point us to the tenancy agreement and then misquote it, you stupid woman.


Mel and I worked together on a draft response pointing these thing out to her, but chose not to send it. You know.. karma points etc.


So the second open house was yesterday and as annoyed as we both were, we went to same trouble again. It didn't take so long this time after the major clean-up last week but still, we were nice. Another note on the bench when we got home to say "Same time next week."


Hmmm..... I can't be sure there won't be some folded washing in the laundry next week, or even some dirty washing for that matter.. perhaps some plates draining on the dishrack and toys scattered across the lounge-room floor...

Thursday, June 26, 2008

What is it about Wednesday?

See previous post re: my new healthy habits.



Last week all was good... until Wednesday. I can get through Monday and Tuesday without even a passing thought about wine. Or be content with a small glass with dinner. It helps that Mondays I can go to meditation group so that's my form of relaxation, I guess...



But by the time we get to Wednesday, I feel like I've worked a full week. Seriously... is it just me adjusting to work again? Because last week I got to Wednesday and my one glass of wine turned into something like FOUR. Same on Thursday night. Ironically, when I actually did get to the end of the week, I'd had enough drinking and was back to moderation again. What's with that? I am strange.



Recording it is good though, because at least I can see these patterns. Last night... same again. Came home feeling like "Man what a week. I need a drink!". At least I was conscious of it this time. But yeah.. there's something about Wednesday...

Monday, June 23, 2008

Serenity now

I finally got back to my Monday night meditation group tonight. I have to miss it when Mel's not around for obvious reasons.. (though surely it can't be long now until Annabelle's cooking her own dinner??) and last week I got home late from work and didn't think it was fair to turn around and leave again in the evening when she's only just getting used to full-time daycare.


So tonight I went, despite all her protests... and I feel sooo much better for it. I think I need to add meditation onto my daily tracking sheet. And yes.. we'll get back to that - the daily/weekly tracking I mean. It wasn't a good first week but I think this one will be an improvement. Well it couldn't get much worse. HA!


Now I'm home.. feeling peaceful and relaxed, bub is in bed and I'm going to join her. Literally. She's asleep in our bed. I know I know... rod, back, yada yada...

Sunday, June 22, 2008

Men

Mel's been complaining all weekend that Annabelle won't give him five minutes peace. Shopping yesterday was torture. He took her out in the morning and couldn't even get inside Bunnings to buy some stuff he wanted because she had a major tantrum. I'm thinking "Welcome to my world, dude. Why do you think I got a job?" but managed to refrain from saying it.



Today the three of us managed the Bunnings outing together but when we got home, Mel realised he needed some more bits for his creative project. He knows I want to go to the gym today or do some kind of exercise (after my disastrous weight loss effort this week but that's another post).. so he just came to me and very kindly.. thoughtfully... utterly full of positive intent.. said to me "How about I race out to Bunnings now and you can go out and do some stuff while she's asleep and I'll stay home with her?" No kidding, he thought that was about the most special, gracious offer in the world. HA HA HA!!! I looked at him with raised eyebrows and he was taken aback. "What? Why are you looking at me like that? Don't you think that's a good idea?". He so did not even get it.

Saturday, June 21, 2008

Is it a sign?

Someone told me once (or I read it... or I made it up) that if the universe is trying to give you a sign, you'll get the same message three times. I'm not sure you actually need to wait for the three signs if you hear or see something that resonates with you, but from what I can gather if you DO get the same message three times, well that's really a sign. A big one.



So how's this? I was at work yesterday and a colleague asked me how many glasses of water I'd drunk for the day.. since I'd told her earlier in the week that I was trying to be healthier. Another colleague overhead and said "Do you know what you need? Lemon detox!". She went on to tell me that she'd heard all about this fabulous lemon detox thing and that there's a book that follows the same principles written by some doctor. All this talk of detoxing when all I said I was trying to drink more water and less coffee during the day!



So then my friend Danielle emails me this morning and says "Hey check out Dooce. Heather's detoxing too!" So I did, and it turns out Heather is indeed detoxing. Not lemon detoxing.... she's doing some 21 day Vegan thing endorsed by Oprah. I actually like the idea behind it, which is conscious eating - but I'm not sure I'd have the internal fortitude to sustain 21 days of veganism. I'm actually not sure I'd survive even one day to be honest.. which is why I'm not detoxing!



After catching up on Dooce, I skedaddled along to a hair appointment, bought a large coffee (note: one doesn't buy large coffees when detoxing) and waited for my name to be called. As I sat in the chair, I noticed an old version of New Idea on the little table in front of me. It was opened up at the page showing Oprah Winfrey talking about her 21 day detox!!! Aaarrgggghhhh.... that's the third sign!! Isn't it? That's the universe saying I need to detox! And I don't want to detox. Waaaaaa!!!!! Do I have to???

Thursday, June 19, 2008

My new niece is here!

Welcome to the world, Miss Rhiannon Paige Rhys. Born 18th June at 7.51pm and weighing in at 10lb 5oz (or 4.93kg) she is a gorgeous healthy little thing. Nice work mum on doing it drug-free. Now that is impressive! We all can't wait to meet her and have some squishy cuddles. :)





Sunday, June 15, 2008

Reality check

After two weeks of work, I've been surprised at how exhausted I am. I know that it's to be expected while I settle into the new routine but I seriously think that if I'm going to survive this working and parenting gig (especially when Mel starts travelling again which will be SOON) I need to make some healthy lifestyle changes. Since starting work, I've had hardly any time to exercise, I come home and have a couple of glasses of wine to relax, then wake up in the morning and need a strong coffee to kickstart my day... and another one when I get to work... I rarely get an unbroken night's sleep which doesn't help but there isn't much that I can do about that for now. And apart from my general lack of energy and vitality, my jeans are getting tighter. Needless to say, tight jeans make mummy grumpy.



SO... today I weighed and measured myself and resolved to break some bad habits and start some good ones. I am going to post my vitals here *gasp* to keep me honest because I think I need some accountability and I'm buggered if I'm going to pay for a Life Coach when I AM ONE!!! :) I have also stuck a chart to the back of the pantry door where I can keep a daily track of my habits. Nothing like a tick chart to keep you honest. I've decided I'm going to record:

  • Exercise
  • Water
  • Alcohol
  • Coffee and
  • Vitamins

  • And I'm pleased to report it's working already. As soon as I took my weight and measurements this morning and almost died from shock I was all "Right-ho! I'm off to the gym then!!!" when I was totally going to blow it off and sit in the sun instead. *blush*



    So here's where I am, at week one:

    Weight: 68.3kg
    Bust: 94cm (37")
    Waist: 79cm (31")
    Hips: 96.5cm (38")

    Goal #1 is to get that first number back down to like 65kg where it should be. And in doing that, it would be nice if I lost an inch or so of my waist and hips. Of course, just my luck it'll come straight off my boobs. Doesn't it always?! Anyway, I'm motivated..... for now......

    What's wrong with my blog?

    How come the words all look scrunched up? Is it just my computer or is it the same on yours? hmmm... must come back and fix that later. In the meantime, you might have noticed I've started adding a blogroll in the sidebar. Feel free to pop into any of them for much hilarity or just some inspiration.

    I have to put a toddler to bed now.

    Saturday, June 7, 2008

    Delete Delete

    I just thought I'd mention that I've deleted all references to my recent job-hunting exercise. I figure now that I've got the job it's better that I don't have that stuff blabbed all over the internet. People get fired for that sort of thing, you know?! So thanks for sharing the journey.

    Thank god it's the weekend!

    Wednesday, June 4, 2008

    I'm exhausted!

    What a lightweight I am, eh? I've worked two whole days. Ok that's a lie. I've worked two part days, and it's 7pm and I swear if Mel was home I'd be slinking quietly off to bed and hoping no-one notices. How funny.

    I'm also busting to just talk to someone... anyone.. about my job and all the things going around in my head. The good, the bad, the what-if's etc.. so with Mel being away it's all a bit blah and very tiring and I feel like I'm coming down with something.

    On the whole, it's good... but I'm looking forward to him getting home on Friday and I'm SO looking forward to a long weekend.

    Monday, June 2, 2008

    Planes, trains and...

    oh ok there were no trains. Just taxis and planes.. and our car. Annabelle and I had such a fantastic time in Sydney catching up with all our mates. It was a packed schedule which is just how I like it - we only stayed two nights - but it was great. I didn't want to come home. I sure didn't want to sell our house by the time I left because I wanted to move back into it!!! :(

    Anyway, this is just a quick hello. I'll post a few photos later. I start the job tomorrow so while I'm settling into that and getting into the routine of full-time daycare I might not be online as much but I will try to post an update after my first day. Of course Mel is away this week at a Leadership Course (read: junket!) so again I'm having to do it as a single parent. His timing is always so perfect. Not.